Archive for April, 2010

Online dating rules to live by: It’s never personal

Posted on April 28, 2010 with No Comments

How to survive digital rejection with your dignity intact

That headline seems ridiculous, right? I mean, what is dating if not extremely, completely, horrendously, desperately personal? How can you go about searching for the one person that makes your heart feel whole without getting at least a little bit personal?

It seems weird, but when it comes to looking for love online, you need to remember that it’s not about you — at least not for awhile. Most of us who’ve dipped even a toe into the tepid waters of online dating have felt at certain times that maybe we’re just not made for computer-based romance. We’re not photogenic enough or we just can’t write; our icebreakers keep getting rejected and our winks are never returned.

If you happen to be one of the thousands who isn’t having success on the dating sites, you should definitely consider tweaking your profile and having a friend take some pictures that show off your good side. But once you’ve done that, you need to keep in mind that your digital dry spell is probably temporary. Anyone who’s tried out one of the many dating sites knows that luck tends to ebb and flow like the member pool. But most importantly, when someone flakes out on you or makes it clear that they don’t share your feelings of attraction, you need to not take it personally.

The truth is, you can’t possibly know why that girl isn’t interested. Maybe you she hates dogs and you have a boxer. Maybe she’s intimidated by your intellectual prowess and professional success. Or maybe she just met someone and wants to see where it goes. No matter what, it ultimately has very little to do with you. And while we’re all tempted to decide that it’s our massive forehead and clown-like ears, the more likely scenario is that she had something else going on … or she just wasn’t your type anyway.

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Signals That Tell You He’s Interested

Posted on April 27, 2010 with No Comments

Want to know if that guy you’ve been flirting with all night likes you?  Even if you’re chatting about the weather, how people hold their bodies will tell you more than they want you to know.

Signals He Sends When He’s Interested:

  • The Grooming.  Adjusting or stroking his tie, fiddling with his collar and hand combing his hair.
  • The Loosening.  Partly unbuttoning his shirt or loosening his tie.
  • The Eyebrow Flash.  Raising his eyebrows and flashing them upward signals a strong interest. 

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Dating Services: 8 Questions to Ask

Posted on April 21, 2010 with No Comments

Dating services run the gamut, with some offering events, singles’ nights and seminars while others provide introductions, video dating, computer dating and matchmaking services.  Some focus on fixing up singles who are interested in sports.  Others cater to specific religious groups.  There are even some for millionaires. 

When choosing a service, there are a few things to consider to ensure you don’t unwittingly sign up with a fly-by-night service.  Stick with busy, reputable services that have been around a long time, and be sure to ask the following questions:

  • How many years have you been in business?
  • What is your success rate?
  • How many clients do you have?
  • What are the demographics of the average client? 
  • Do both men and women pay a fee?
  • Are there people available to me if I have questions?
  • How many dates am I entitled to, and over what period of time?
  • How much does the service cost? 

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