Posted on May 29, 2009 with No Comments
Tact is a skill that anyone can learn. It is the ability to be sensitive to the feelings and internal dialogue of other people. If you have it, it can give you a significant edge when it comes to meeting and attracting women. If you don’t, your relationships with everyone are probably more strained than they should be, or hardly exist at all.
People who have mastered tact naturally know what is going on in the minds of others. Sensing this, they can then respond in a way that influences people in a positive way. You have to be careful with this though, employing too much tact can make you look like a wimp. There has to be a fine balance between using tact and maintaining that little edginess women love.
Example: “Nice dress…”(then wink & smile)
The “Nice dress” portion of this allows you to check her out without being creepy. You could probably get away with one “up and down” but any more than that or excessive staring would be acting without tact. Don’t get greedy with your eyes. The wink is flirtatious and helps you stand out from the droves of guys who simply drop compliments left and right and hoping for the best.
The amount of tact you use should be based on the person you are talking too. It requires awareness and the ability to change your behavior based on the way the person you are speaking with reacts to you.
For example, If you’re being too sexually aggressive or not quite aggressive enough with a woman you have just started seeing, you should keep your senses tuned to the way she is reacting to your advances or she may be encouraging them if you’re not being aggressive enough. If she suddenly seems defensive realize you should lay off and take a couple steps back. If she starts allowing you into her “comfort zone” or she moves into yours and you do nothing about it, it will signal to her you’re not attracted to her.
High Amounts of Tact
People with high amounts of tact are polite, courteous, and select their words carefully. Listening is key. They know what people say and what they mean. Too much tact can make you look dorky and boring. Balance is key, so have tact but still be direct and to the point. It’s ok to risk upsetting people occasionally.
Low Amounts of Tact
People with low levels of tact don’t shy from saying or doing exactly what it is they are thinking. They are often perceived as blunt, rude, or too aggressive. People may find this type of person a bit intimidating.
For example, a guy with low levels of tact would look a woman up and down 25 times during their conversation and totally creep her out because he thinks shes hot. Not the way to do it.
Balance Is Key
At the end of the day, you have to act in a way that you are comfortable with and allows you to forge strong relationships with people. Bottom line: don’t be so aggressive that no one wants to be around you and don’t talk and act like you are Royalty. Look her up and down, but only once.
-Gary
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Posted on May 26, 2009 with No Comments
Two distinct animals shouldn’t be yoked simultaneously on the plow. In Judaism, the ox was advised clean, while the donkey was advised unclean. Not only that, but these animals have distinct natures and distinct power and abilities1. If you put them simultaneously, the plow will likely proceed in a around rather than of directly, because they are not identically matched. Paul is composing to the Corinthian Christians and exhorting them to not be compelled simultaneously with non-Christians. The encompasses wedding ceremony, but it furthermore encompasses enterprise and other connections as well. He is not saying we should have not anything to do with non-believers; he is saying we should not be “bound” to them in ways that can sway our stroll with the Lord adversely.
Do you get the point? A Christian and a non-Christian have distinct natures, and they are not identically agreed spiritually. After our connection with the Lord, wedding ceremony is the most important connection in our inhabits, and God doesn’t desire us in that connection with a non-Christian.
Missionary dating with is a Christian dating with a non-Christian for the reason of evangelism; not less than that’s what they claim. I accept as factual most persons who do this have the incorrect motivation. Instead of doing to to glorify God and lead the individual to Christ, they do it because they are captivated to the individual and they number if they can lead him or her to Christ then it will be alright to designated day and, probably, wed this person. They’re likely feeling despairing and/or intolerant, and they don’t desire to limit their choices by constraining the pool of accessible partners to Christians only. For every individual you can display me who did this effectively, I can display you 10 persons who are wed to non-believers and are miserable. It’s a actually awful concept and it’s wrong. You should not ever designated day somebody except you accept as factual there might be the promise for wedding ceremony, and since God has instructed us NOT to wed non-Christians, then you should not designated day them either. Even if the individual did get kept, now you have a “baby Christian” who will not be as spiritually mature as you. You’re still unequally yoked to some span, and that does not lead to a fulfilling relationship.
Advance in my stroll with the Lord, I ascertained myself in this very situation. I was fascinated to a young female I worked with, and we went out a twosome of times. I considered “She’d be large if she’d arrive to understand the Lord.” The comical thing was, she completed it because it was conspicuous to her that we were not compatible. She was utilised to suspending round with persons who drank, smoked and said crude things, and I was very distinct than that so it made her uncomfortable. She really bawled as she notified me this. She evidently didn’t understand how to reply to somebody who treated her with esteem and kindness.
Should a Christian date a non-Christian? This question is considered by most, if not all, single Christians at some point. The term “equally yoked” comes from 2 Corinthians 6:14:
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (NASB)
The concept goes all the way back to Deuteronomy 22:10:
“You shall not plow with an ox and a donkey together.” (NASB)
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Posted on May 24, 2009 with No Comments
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1. Surround yourself with positive and optimistic people. You become more like the people you hang around with. The rich hang out with the rich. The punks hang out with the punks. Hang out with the type of person you want to become. Cut out negative people from life as if they were an infected limb, because that’s what they are.
2. Never let anyone else ruin your fun. Your significant other or friend is being a jackass? Leave the area and call some people who are and want to be around you. Don’t put up with any bullshit, ever. If you do it once you will do it again. The less you put up with, the more people will respect you and the more you will respect yourself for having integrity.
3. Don’t let your job take over your life. Make sure you have free time to clean your house, clean your desk, and maintain other friendships. Make it a point to spend at LEAST one night a week with friends that you have a great time with.
4. Become a constant learner. When you meet someone new try to learn as much as you can from them if they specialize or work in something you have never done before. The more you know, the more you can talk about and better relate to people from different walks of life.
5. Socialize with everyone that crosses your path. Say Hi to the coffee guy and ask him how his day is going. Don’t be that person who works from 9-5 and doesn’t say a word to anyone in the office. Don’t be cheesy about it either..don’t walk around with a shit eating grin plastered on your face all day. Just acknowledge the prescence of others and ask them something about what they do and how its going. “Hey Bob, how was the hike?” etc People love it when you remember detail about their lives.
6. Don’t do the same thing day in day out. Do something fun, different, and exciting. The people that complain that life is so boring and monotonous aren’t living; they’re waiting to die.
7. Work hard, play hard, and know how to really relax. Make sure you’re getting at least 7 hours of sleep.
-Gary
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